A relationship without fights between the couple is literally next to impossible. At times, one tends to lose cool and vent out entire frustration towards his or her partner but that is good for your relationship. Yes, you read it right! A study proves fighting with your partner is indeed good for your relationship
A survey was carried out on around 1000 adults and came to a conclusion that the couples who argue were 10 times more likely to be in a happy relationship in comparison to those who swept their problems under the carpet and this is is what Joseph Grenny, co-author of the book Crucial Conversations said.
He also further shared how husband and wife live under the illusion that ignoring discussions on sensitive topics will surely avoid an argument which in turn, keep their relationship floating.
Grenny also opines that a big mistake couples make is ‘avoidance’ and not talking about the issues that have been bothering them.
They usually worry about the immediate consequences of having an argument and eventually end up risking their relationship itself in the long term.
Quite interestingly, more than 4 in 5 participants in the survey had blamed that poor communication was one of the main reasons responsible for their failed relationship in the past.
However, Grenny narrated that people fail to understand the position of their own emotions in how they feel in a specific situation and blame others for it.
In fact, he termed this an as unconscious mistake couples make where they do not take ‘emotional responsibility’ for their feelings.
Undoubtedly, this study also suggests that opening up and even having an argument with your partner is the key to a successful relationship.
“True love takes work. Real intimacy is not just about love but is also about truth. And crucial conversations are the vehicle for surfacing truth in a way that accelerates a feeling of intimacy, trust and connection,” the author told a leading daily.
Here are six satisfactory signs that say a girl likes you more than just a friend.
1. She believes you are special:
Understanding makes life, dating and relationship easier; going about the business wouldn’t be a tough task if you know what’s going on in her mind. Most of the times, we tend to play with our mind rather than asking her, and keep guessing whether she wants to carry on the friendship to the next step. Do you want to know that your friend is more than the friend herself and sees a scope of being with you for life-long? It is certain that some of these signs will clear your doubts.
2. She wants to know you better as a person:
If she has an interest in you, it is very much certain that she will always be eager to know more about you from the word go. From your day-to-day routine to your little habits, the way you take things, she will try to observe every snippet of details from you.
Also, when you discuss anything, she will be listening to it no matter how senseless it is and might even come up with a few questions to understand you better as a person. This helps her know yourself a little better than before.
3. She remembers what you said:
No matter what you said, be it a compliment or your favourite food, colour, or anything else, she remembers that for a long time. If you once told her that you love biriyani, she will make a mental note of it and take you to a Biriyani restaurant for a date.
If you told her your likes and dislikes, she will behave accordingly just to make the relationship intact. In fact, she has already started looking at the wavelengths you both have and it’s a clear-cut indication that she is trying to bring out that you both have a connection.
4. She always has special time for you
No matter how she is running through a hectic schedule, she always has a special time for you. She likes to relish the time with you during the weekends as she considers you as her top-notch priority. Also, things can be real more interesting if she tries to stretch the date by asking you to come for a little walk before she reaches home. These small things count a lot in the build-up to a positive and healthy relationship.
5. She introduces and talks about you with her friends
There is nothing to worry about when it’s true love. Whenever she talks to her besties, she mentions your name so that they get to know that you both hang out together and spend some quality time. Before introducing you to her friends, she would ask you whether you like to meet her friends in the times to come. And if she wants you to introduce you to her family members even as a friend, it’s also a strong sign that you are pretty much close to her
6. She is proactive in texting and calling
Whenever you text her, she replies you immediately because she prioritizes you first over others. Also, She likes to start and end her day by texting you jokes, funny messages, sweet nothings and so on. She finds some reasons to phone you and have a great deal of fun with you.
7. She has a different attitude with you
You can sense a difference in her body language especially when she talks with you. She makes eye contact with you and keeps staring at you even if you are not looking at her. She would make extra efforts to make you feel special and what else you need boy?. Also, she might find ways to touch you (not necessarily sexually) by placing her hand around your shoulders or simply holding your hand.